Introducing a New Partner to Your Children

Introducing your children to a new partner is an important milestone and can be a delicate process that requires careful consideration. Each family is different and therefore what might work for some, may not work for others. 

Here are some tips to consider before taking the step to introduce your children to a new partner:

• Wait until you a certain about your new partner. Whilst there are no hard and fast rules about when is the right time to make the introduction, you may wish to wait until at least 6-12 months into the relationship to ensure it is stable and strong.
• Speak to your ex-partner. As a matter of courtesy, the right time to introduce the children to new partners should be agreed by both parents.  You should then inform the other parent ahead of any introduction so that there is complete transparency.  
• Ease into the introduction. Any initial introductions should take place in a casual setting so that the children and your partner are at ease. There should be no pressure on the children and they must be reassured that your new partner is not seeking to replace their other parent.  
• Communicate. Be open and honest with your children about your intentions for your new partner so that their expectations can be managed. Be prepared that your children may not be accepting of your partner initially and be ready to support the children as necessary. 
• Create a safe space. You should ensure the children know that they can come to you at any time to discuss any concerns they have, including those about your new partner. While there may not be an actual issue, you must remember this is the children’s perception of their experience and it should not be overlooked. 

If you would like advice on any of the issues raised in this article, please contact Irrum Shah, Solicitor in our Family Law Department on 01295 204154, or by email at ishah@se-solicitors.co.uk